Who can find a licit Mass?
Calling all concerned lay people: there is a tres helpful document on the elements of a licit Mass here. NB that there is not supposed to be hand holding during the Our Father, ever, since this constitutes an inappropriate sign of intimacy rather than reconciliation. NB that the homily is not to be given by any other than a validly ordained priest or deacon, ever. NB that footwashing is for men and men only.
And furthermore, the hum-dinngger that is hereby effecting a change of my parish of choice for daily Mass:
Whether a crucifix is present at the altar has no bearing on whether the Eucharist is valid or invalid (the absence of a crucifix will not cause the Eucharist to be invalid), but it does have a bearing on whether the Mass is licit or illicit. Canon law requires that "There is to be a cross, clearly visible to the congregation, either on the altar or near it" (General Instruction of the Roman Missal 270). The revised General Instruction—which has not yet gone into effect—clarifies that the cross in question should have a corpus (representation of Christ’s body), meaning that it should be a crucifix rather than a bare cross. If there were no cross by on or near the altar (or, once the new GIRM goes into effect, no crucifix) then the Mass would be illicit, or not celebrated in accord with the requirements of the law.